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Toxic Neighbours. How To Handle Them With Ease

Neighbours sometimes can be a challenge. You might feel helpless and flooded with negative emotions. Today I will show you what you can do to handle a toxic neighbour with ease.

How To Handle A Toxic Neighbour With Ease

It is not my first article about toxic neighbours on this blog. However, the issue is so important that I have decided to add some more survival tips which you can instantly use.

One word of caution. You need to be very careful when you are cutting off your neighbours. Sometimes you might need them, even if they are troublesome, e.g. while going on holiday.

It is also important what it means “toxic neighbour”. Is it just being rude, offensive, or maybe some shindies? Have you ever informed them politely that you need to sleep?

However, if verbal abuse, ignorance or even hostility and scheming take place, then you do have toxic neighbours and need to cut off them as soon as possible.

1. Check Your Attitude

Sometimes it might be your thoughts and beliefs which create your perception and you consider some people as toxic. If you are not sure how to spot a toxic neighbour, read this article (symptoms sb is a toxic neighbour). It might turn out that you are just paranoid.

Remember that everything starts with your thoughts. Therefore, to cut off your toxic neighbours efficiently, you need to watch your thinking process. Dwelling on how bad they are will not help, moreover, you will attract even more people of that sort to your life.

Learn how to deal with your thinking.

2. Try to Avoid War With Toxic Neighbours

This is the most important rule. Even if the neighbour is hostile, do everything possible to avoid the war. For example be aware that if you complain to the management about their loud talking at night, they may do the same against you.

If you have a pet, this may be your vulnerable spot. A toxic neighbour may not help you in a case of burglary, they can even help the criminal. Of course, as I wrote above, being toxic may mean different things in the case of various people.

It is advisable to establish some healthy boundaries with your neighbours. If you only just dislike them and they sometimes organise noisy parties, things can go well. Anyway, in each case, an open talk will be necessary.

Learn how to argue peacefully.

3. Have an Open Talk With Toxic Neighbours

In this way, you will explain the situation (e.g if the neighbour is complaining about your child crying at night or your dog barking). You can also ask if he or she really said something while gossiping as you know the facts from other people. Every time when you want to confront a toxic person, be prepared for their anger and other negative emotions directed towards you. Learn how to handle negative emotions first.

Assertiveness is very important here. Tell them openly that they have done your wrong, but rather describing how you are feeling. Never attack them personally per “you”. always use “I” formula. Later demand apologies and changing toxic behaviour. You can also give them an ultimatum, which is the last resort.

4. Ignore Their Talk And Cut Off

In other ways, cut off. Sometimes it is the only option available. I know it is not easy as I also have a toxic neighbour upstairs. Yet you can create a new habit of ignoring this person. For example, if they gossip about you, start counting singing a disco song. This will help you to dissociate from the neighbour. Learn how to, cut off from them from this article.

Cutting off also means changes made by you. Maybe it is the time to move out? What about finding more supportive people who could solve the problem of your toxic neighbours? And also, do not forget about the power of your mind – use your thoughts to create positive outcomes in your life.

Learn more about positive thinking and dealing with challenges:

In a Nutshell

Summing up, before you actually cut off, talk to your neighbours first and find some support from other people living in your area if e.g. they drink and are dangerous. Good luck.

If you know more ways of dealing with toxic neighbours, leave a comment. Have a nice day.

Victoria Herocten

2 replies on “Toxic Neighbours. How To Handle Them With Ease”

I have a problem with a toxic neighbor. Basically I think he loathes me because I’ve minded my own business since I moved here, and was not friendly enough for his taste. He invited me once and then he’s been extremely cold / rude every time I run into him. Then after I came back from 2 months away (I was confined in the countryside), he started basically bullying me. He gossips , talks sh** about me on his balcony to other neighbors, making sure that it’s loud enough and that I’m home so I can hear him. He has done that about 5 times. Plus times I didn’t hear. He’s next door to me, our balconies are adjacent, so this is very toxic situation. I thought of ignoring in and just killing it with kindness and positivity. BUT it doesn’t work, he keeps doing this. Guess I’ll have to confront him. I’m super anxious about this because he’s such an idiot I do not think he has any intention to quit this behavior.
Any advice very welcome.

I recommend the book Emotional Blackmail, plus you need to work on your thoughts – assume that confrontation will be successful. You can use affirmations to tame your negative emotions and biggest fears – check some articles on this website and apply the tips placed there. Moreover, consider a radical change, like moving out as the last resort. Good luck with solving the problem

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