My last post made you familiar with the six pillars of high self-esteem. Today I would like to describe the first pillar which concerns self-awareness.
The Practice of Living Consciously
The practise of living consciously is interchangeably known as self-awareness. Pathway To Happiness defines it as:
Self Awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment.Pathway To Happiness
The Specifies of Living Consciously
According to Nathaniel Branden, the founder of the “six pillars of high self-esteem” theory, the practice of living consciously means:
1. Active Mind
In other words, you are busy thinking, solving problems, learning new things. Do your best to learn something new every day and implement it in your life. An active mind always looks for solutions and never is overwhelmed by problems.
Self-aware people always take care of their intelligence and do all to increase it. I do not mean only scientific or linguistic intelligence. There are nine kinds of intelligence:
- Naturalist (nature smart)
- Musical (sound smart)
- Logical-mathematical (number/reasoning smart)
- Existential (life smart)
- Interpersonal (people smart)
- Bodily-kinesthetic (body smart)
- Linguistic (word smart)
- Intra-personal (self smart)
- Spatial (picture smart)
It is important to develop all of them in the same way, but base your career and life activity on the strongest ones.
3. Self-Awareness As Living in the Moment
There is no point ruminating over the past or worrying about the future. Be focused on the present moment. Practise mindfulness. I will shortly write an article about this topic, so stay tuned to my blog.
4. Distinguishing Facts From Opinions
When you are self-aware, it is easy to distinguish facts from opinions. The fact is described as the statement that can be verified or proved to be true. The opinion is an expression of judgment or belief about something. Fact relies on observation or research while opinion is based on assumption. The fact is an objective reality whereas opinion is a subjective statement.
5. Reaching To Words Relevant To Facts
In other words, naming the facts as they are. We are often exaggerating when something wrong happens and also tend to diminish the value of our success. We also do not pretend that something does not exist when the fact is not convenient for the family or friends.
6. Noticing the Confronting Impulses
If your awareness is on the high level, very well developed, you can notice the impulses which confront each other. For example, you can notice when you are hungry and when it is another urge resembling hunger.
7. Searching For Feedback From the Environment
Aware people are not afraid of seeking for feedback, even if it means discomfort and pain and knowing that the truth can be hard to handle. Knowing all the picture as it is, people with highly developed awareness are able to make better decisions and cooperate with people better.
8. Attempting To Understand Despite the Difficulty
Moreover, very aware people will always try to understand the issue, even if it is painful. It does not only mean searching for feedback but also checking facts and sometimes even doing research. On the other hand, while understanding, aware people are not obsessive and judgemental.
9. Being Receptive To New Knowledge
People with high awareness always seek new knowledge to broaden their perception. Only in this way they are able to be aware of everything around them.
10. Being Willing To Accept And Correct Mistakes
Living your life consciously means that you do not deny to make a mistake. Instead, you analyse it clearly and take steps to correct it and to learn the lesson.
11. Seeking Always To Expand Awareness
You are never enough being aware, you do everything possible to improve it, to become soberer and live your life the way it really is.
Self_Awareness In Practice
In the end, I will give you a couple of stems from Nathaniel’s 30-week program to raise self-esteem. They will help you to develop self-awareness.
If I bring more awareness to my life today…
- I will be more conscious of what I am doing in my life,
- my relationships with people will be better,
- I will stop deceiving myself,
- I will be living in the more real-world,
- my self-esteem will rise
- my self-satisfaction will rise.
If I bring 5 per cent more awareness to my important relationships…
- they will flourish,
- I will find an opportunity to sort them out,
- my family will respect me more,
- my friends will respect me more,
- people will respect me more,
- people will be more likely to do what I want from them.
If I bring 5 per cent more awareness to my career…
- my boss will respect me more,
- I will get promoted quicker,
- I can make more money,
- I will find more opportunities to make more money.
Nathaniel has inspired me to write a book, where self-awareness is also discussed.
In a Nutshell
Today you could learn what self-awareness is and I have also given you some examples of sentence completion. Generally writing, self-awareness means that you are not afraid to face the truth about yourself and the world, whatever it could mean.