How To Stop Perfectionism


Perfectionism is a plague in today’s world. It causes procrastination and lots of stress. How can you get rid of this trait for good? I will show present you 15 efficient tools which you can apply instantly, all together or some of them.

1. Define Your Goal

It will enable you to set standards – the deadline, the measures and the level of progress you want to make. Setting these three things will set you free from perfectionism as you will not have to do the job ideally. Also, monitoring your progress will inspire you to work even more, as you will be encouraged by your achievements.

2. Define Emergency Goals

These are the goals of a lower standard, which will satisfy the minimum requirements applied to your primary targets. For example, if you have decided not to eat junk food, be aware, that there might be temptations to do so. If you set a smaller goal “eat junk food no more than once per week”, you will not fail if it happens that you eat that food.

3. Focus On What Is Needed

When you buy software, you focus on functionality, not a perfect design. The same applies to your goals. Think of your tasks, like creating a website or writing a blog post, or even cooking the dinner and answer the question, any time when you are tempted to be perfect: What is needed, necessary for the customers, my family? You will soon notice that the standards put by yourself in a given field of life do not have to be so high, and there are only a few issues which are important for your customers and family.

4. Separate Results From Judgement

The result is always neutral, but you can interpret it in many ways. For some people a 3-course dinner served on the most modern crockery is perfect while you might rather think of how healthy the meal is, even if served on traditional crockery and is only the two-course one. Strive for the results that are best for you instead of being paralysed by fear of others’ judgement. Eat and exercise for health and fitness; not for simple weight targets.

5. Set the Time Limit

Some things are never really finished. Let’s say that you are cleaning the floor. No matter how well you do it today, it will get just as muddy tomorrow when people forget to wipe their feet. Therefore, set a timer for a reasonable amount of time and clean for just that long instead of spending hours scrubbing. The place will still become cleaner, and you will work faster and without obsessing over details. In the case of a longer or more detailed project, set a deadline, which can get you started and keep you moving instead of worrying over details.

6. Use the 80/20 Principle

Pareto discovered that we spend only 20% of-of time or energy on the things which give us 80% of the outcome. Therefore, you will find the tasks which are more important as they will bring you more benefits than others in any project to finish or goal to achieve. Look at the task or goal which you are supposed to pursue and decide what is crucial, giving you 80% of the outcome and start doing this task. As an exercise, take one of your weekly goals now and define what will bring you 80%:

7. Forgive Yourself For Your Shortcomings

Nobody is perfect; we are humans. Remember that apart from deficiencies; you also have strengths which you can always use to improve your performance. Think of your latest goal and list all the skills which may help you to achieve it even better than so far. Choose three of them and write them down.

8. Remember That There Is No Right Way Or Answer

If you’ are evaluated, it is always done subjectively. For example, you cannot possibly please everybody who reads your writing. Never forget to follow your individual preferences to be original, even if keeping an audience in mind can help give your work direction.

9. Learn From Criticism

Even destructive criticism can teach you something. The next time you will show your work there will be more people liking it, when you learn the lesson. Achieving acceptance often is only a step to desired results. Think of the last time you have been criticised. What could you learn from this criticism? Write it down.

10. Create a Training Environment

You will be able to make mistakes there, sharpening your saw. Rehearse. Experiment. Practice. Do yourself a survey before the real test. When writing, prepare a rough draft. In this way, you will kill perfectionism and start to achieve remarkable goals, making a huge progress. Start this new approach right now and you will be surprised how fast your life will change.

11. Get Started

Even if you are not sure what you are doing, give it a try. Your first attempt may not get you anywhere, yet you may know what or who to ask to get going and also just discover what not to do. Now think of this one thing in which you want to be perfect. Consider what you could do right now to gain bigger excellence it this area of yoiur life.

12. Try a New Approach To the Task

The method which you are using to work on your goals is not always the best. It might also not always work so you might have some false starts which might discourage you. The more unusual and newer an activity you undertake, the more you will have to learn by trial and error. Therefore, instead of blaming yourself for mistakes, try a new approach to work on your goal. Ask other people or learn what you might want to improve. If you are stuck at any of your goals, think who you could ask for advice and what to improve. Write this information down.

13. Reflect On Your Failures

Failure is relative. Maybe your article had some semantic mistakes and the linguists have noticed them, but most of the readers have not noticed anything at all and what is even more, have given you some positive comments. You probably know more about what went in than other people. Remember that whoever benefited from your work cares more about the result than the process.

14. Treat Failure As an Opportunity To Be a Better Person

We often live with the feeling of “I am not good enough.” It is another symptom of perfectionism. However, there is no such thing as you are good at or excellent in something. Just listen to your heart’s desire and do the job which you enjoy. You are “enough” just as you are.

15. Reflect On Your Success

Think about something you have done or made which was successful. It may not have been perfect, but you have achieved an objective. Which of the successful methods that you have used, could you apply to your next projects?

How do you cope with perfectionism? Sare your experience leaving a comment.

Have a nice day.

Victoria Herocten

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