I have met many individuals in my career who claimed to be happy. However, when I looked into their eyes, the brutal truth emerged. Check your case doing a happiness test.
What Is Happiness?
According to Wikipedia: “Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. A variety of biological, psychological, religious and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources. Various research groups, including positive psychology, are employing the scientific method to research questions about what happiness is, and how it might be attained.”
Happiness can be defined differently in various religions. In Judaism, the biblical verse “worship The Lord with gladness; come before him with joyful songs,” stresses joy in the service of God. In Catholicism, “the ultimate end of human existence consists of infelicity, blessed happiness. In Buddhism, ultimate happiness is only achieved by overcoming craving in all forms.”
The Happiness Test
However, the aforementioned definition does not exhaust the real state of happiness. Whet I agree with is that depending on culture or religion, happiness can be defined in various ways. However, there are some common factors which can help to define the level of happiness regardless of where you live and what your background is.
A Short Story
Tina, aforementioned in one of my previous articles, had no idea if she was happy or not. She was doing well at her job but was unable to handle her family in a way that gave her peace of mind. Sometimes their relationships were beautiful and then she had the illusion of happiness, yet in most cases, there were conflicts and uneasiness.
She is living in a traditional Western world but does not practise the Catholic religion any more. But childhood had an impact on her current situation. Like most people, she was the example of people I have met in my life – she felt satisfied on the intellectual level, having a good job or a family, but something has been missing. With the test done below, she has finally discovered the truth.
The Happiness Test
Choose one option for each of the statements:
(always, often, sometimes, rarely or never)
- I like and respect myself.
- I am optimistic.
- I know how to have fun.
- I have a good work/life balance.
- I enjoy good relationships with others.
- I spend the time that gives me more pleasure.
- I know my strengths and qualities.
- I am positive and motivated.
- I have personal boundaries.
- I believe that I deserve the best that life has to offer.
- I know my life mission and am satisfied with the level of its fulfilment.
- I understand my mistakes and never beat myself because of them.
- I do not compare to others.
- I consider myself the best.
- I am satisfied with my spiritual life.
Calculate your score. Mark the number of points for each statement using the scale:
- always 5 points,
- often 4 points,
- sometimes 3 points,
- rarely 2 points,
- never 1 point.
Then add up all the points.
Face the Truth
10 -34 Your happiness needs improvement. You do not know what it means to be happy. Most likely your parents have not shown you how to be happy, and your later experiences only affirmed that. You need to read this post to the end and follow all the steps to improve your happiness skills.
35 – 59 You manifest average happiness. Most people belong to this category. You have ups and downs, sometimes you can enjoy pleasure and sometimes not. This article will help you to improve your happiness skills.
60-75 Congratulation, you belong to the small group of happy people. However, if you are reading this blog post, there is still something to improve. Check it to the end and work on the areas that scored the least points
I have not given you a description of happiness for less than ten points because these cases suggest deep depression and require medical help. The reason for it is that we have at least one thing that can satisfy us, even if it happens rarely.
What Can You Do Now?
If you scored over 60 points, just do your best to keep up the standard. I recommend doing the happiness test at least every two weeks. You can bookmark this article for better access.
Unfortunately, you will have more to do in the case of a lower score. Depending on to how many questions you have answered “rarely” or “never, these issues require an urgent correction. You need to make a plan for making progress. I have given you some links to the articles where you can already find the blueprint on how to improve your happiness.
In the case of the “never” option, try to find anything that can improve your happiness even a bit, then do the test again. Seek professional help if there are more than three answers with “never”.
In a Nutshell
Today you had an opportunity to test your happiness. I have also given you three links to the articles where you can find helpful tips on improving your happiness. Good luck with making progress and enjoying your life more.