Working with inner child is a very long and sometimes difficult process. You have already learned how to use speaking and writing Today I will describe the remaining six methods of working with your inner child.
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The Remaining Six Ways of Working With Your Inner Child
This article will describe some more challenging techniques. To be ready for using them, you need to know the type of your inner child and release the most painful emotions first. Check my articles to
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3. Look At the Pictures From Childhood
Let’s go back to your childhood, saved on photos of you. Go through old photo albums and rediscover what your younger self looked like. Do your best to burn the images into your brain. They may serve you well throughout the rest of your inner child work. For example, put photos of yourself in your wallet or bag, next to you bedside table or around the house. When you look at them, they will remind you of your inner child’s presence.
There is one more thing you can do with your photos. Find some time to sit down and actually recall the child you were than. Think how you felt, what you liked doing, at which moment a given photo was taken. There might be tears, anger and even denial of looking into very painful episodes of your life, even if the photo itself might look nice.
Then you can use writing or shouting to release and pacify negativity. The next step would be visualising that all the negativity from the times captured on a given photo is gone. Now you turn over the page of your life and stick your old photo as a new you, able to transform pain into happiness.
4. Cultivate Open Space
Your inner child is a vulnerable person. He or she needs a safe space before showing himself or herself. Many people hide or deny the existence of the inner child because they think it makes them look weak. They do not want to be mocked while crying or hurt again in any way. To let your inner child shine through, be gentle and affirming.
Sit quietly and tell your inner child that you want to know more about her, that you’re available to talk, and that you want her to feel safe. This may sound silly, but what you’re doing is accessing another part of yourself and your unconscious mind.Wiki How
5. Recreate What You Loved To Do As a Child
Sit down and think about what you loved to do as a child. Climbing trees? Playing with toy blocks? Cuddling toy bears or eating warm porridge? Make time to include whatever activity you loved to do as a child in your present life. Of course, you will not cuddle toys in public, yet tacking with your children or grandchildren, singing with them the nursery rhymes are possible.
It is important that you make a habit of this “play time” and explore any embarrassment or silliness you feel towards it. You will feel a bit foolish at first, but it is important to keep an open mind. After a while you will naturally engulf into your childhood passions and become happier.
Through inner child work, people have told me that they have connected to sides of themselves that they never even knew existed as adults. This discovery is truly life-changing. Be the devil and make it yourself.
6. Listen To Your Feelings
If you want to get in touch with your inner child, pay close attention to feelings that pop up in your daily life. These can be traced back to many of the wonderful and painful experiences of childhood when you were young and impressionable. You will notice that your inner child’s fears and insecurities, as well as his or her joys and feelings of wonder, often unfold into the emotional patterns of your adult life.
Do this small exercise every day. Check in with yourself, asking, “What am I feeling right now?” Try to put words to these feelings. You can also write down your discoveries to a diary and then release negativity or amplify positivity.
7. Do Your Inner Journey
Doing inner journey is one of the most powerful ways to reconnect with your inner child to heal childhood traumas. You can do it through meditation or visualisation.
In order to do these inner journeys, it is important that you first gain the trust of your inner child through the previous activities. After having developed a strong connection to your inner child, you can then ask him or her to reveal what earlier life circumstances created the trauma you are struggling with today.
I will just give you a short description for visualisation and meditation. Find a peaceful place where you will be undisturbed. Lay down with your eyes closed and imagine that you are travelling to the moment presented on the photo of you recently viewed or to the moment which has just popped in your mind. While travelling, you can look at these times from the balloon and neutralise negativity, throwing the bubbles of love.
In the case of meditation, you either focus on the parts of your body which were beaten, badly treated in the past or on those which were kissed and cuddled. Use the white, divine light, angels and other positive beings to clear the pain and bless you with happiness.
8. Be Mindful With Your Inner Critic
Your inner critic is one of the biggest obstacles to giving your inner child the attention and care he or she needs. This voice can tell you that you are too old to have childlike insecurities or embrace the silliness of childhood.
Remember that the inner critic begins to develop in childhood. It is a reaction to the inner child being stifled. Hence your inner critic is a part of your inner child who has been let down or hurt but avoid buying into negative self-talk. You need to transform this critical energy.
Start from responding to your inner critic by saying “I understand where you’re coming from. I understand that you’re hurt. I’m here for you.” Another useful response may be: “Yes, this is a little silly. But this is what I’m supposed to be doing right now. Can you please take a break and let me do this?”
In a Nutshell
Today I have described you six more methods how to work with your inner child. You can meditate and visualise yourself as a happy, loved child, cuddled and heard. Looking at your old photos, you can transform the negativity and traumas into a positive experience while taming your inner critic, you love yourself more.