Those who have read the Bible know the commandment of not judging people. However, many people are aware why judging others’ life is not a good thing. Today I will give you the answer.
Here are a few of the most important reasons why we should not judge other people. There might be more, but I do not want to overload you with the challenges to handle.
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6 Reasons Why To Stop Judging People
The reasons I will describe below are obvious. If you look at them and put yourself in the other person’s shoes, these reasons will be more understandable. Let’s get to the point:
1. You Lack Information
Are you sure that you know all the facts about the person? Unfortunately, most of the time you have judged a situation was without knowing the whole picture. It is very important to hold off until you know all facts. Even in the case of the most diabolical acts you need to assume that only being in the murderer’s or rapist’s shoes will give you an explanation of why they have done the wrong.
Even if you know this person very well, being with them in a relationship does not mean you know everything. And remember to talk about the deeds, not the person while trying to judge. Yet the more you are aware that you do not know this person inside-out, the less inclined you will be to judge them, despite the wrong they have done to you.
2. Treat Other People As You Want To Be Treated
‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you’ — is a command based on words of Jesus. Before judging someone, put yourself in his/her shoes. You know that it is really terrible being judged. However, we often do it to other people without thinking. So ask yourself how you would feel if you were judged?
Things may be harder when you face being wounded by someone. It is very easy to judge this person just because of your pain. But even then, think of what wrong you might have done to someone else and how “nice” it is to face the victim’s accusations.
3. We Are Different From Other People
Remember people have one thing in common; they are all different. If you do not like doing something, it does not mean that other people should not do it too. Let’ say that you do not like going shopping on weekends, you. In this case, never tell another person that shopping is just boring. People can do what they want, they are free beings and therefore, stop judging other people based on your own preferences.
Unfortunately, since childhood we are programmed to think in the same way, originality is criticised and even deprecated. The pressure of your peers at school, your parents, your co-workers and the community you are living in is enormous. hence, before judging anyone think who has imprinted you a given dogma and if it is indeed true. We all know from Albert Einstein that everything is relevant.
4. Appearances Are Often Deceptive
Meeting people for the first time we always make a judgment based on their appearances through the proverb tells us not to make such a mistake. However, we often forget that appearance, and the way someone is dressing is a mask for their real “self”. Sometimes people deliberately hide their true nature, e.g. women who do not want to be perceived as sultry and easy by men.
Again, even here dogma and schema takes their toll. But we do not know if the person having an ugly face, for example, had a traumatic accident, is living in a toxic relationship. Moreover, there is no one’s fault to look a bit different than the rest. It was people who have decided how you should dress going to a party or work. e.g. in a bank. It was people who decided what standard of ironing or cleanliness is appropriate and when someone is a slob. And remember that all those dogma and schema are beneficial for someone else, not necessarily you.
5. Acceptance And Tolerance
Acceptance and tolerance can train yourself to become wiser and more tolerant. You might not approve of what other people have done. However, it is not up to you to judge what they did. Live and let live. Sometimes people notice the consequences and then feel repentant, wanting to redeem the wrong. Therefore, when someone has done something wrong, but really wants to change give them a second chance. How do you know that the person doesn’t really want to change?
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6. You Actually Define Yourself
Earl Nightingale has rightly said: “When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.” Also, remember that what you sow returns to you earlier or later. so when you judge others, someone will judge you, even in
Do you want others to think of you as someone who judges everybody? Ask your friends, peers what they think, and if most of them say that you often judge other people, then it is time to stop being judgmental. You will be perceived as
In a Nutshell
Judging others is very easy, but not justified. We usually lack information and do not want to be treated in the same way. Acceptance is the value which when learnt, do not take judging others into account. And we all know that everyone is original so as many opinions as people all over the world. moreover, we never know the whole truth about the other person.
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