Do you know the quite “First we make our habits, then our habits make us.” by Charles C. Noble? If not, I will show you today how to to put your goals into autopilot.
What goals do you want to achieve to get out of an abusive relationship?
Break your goals into habits, and focus on putting those habits into autopilot. In case of abuse, setting and achieving goals will help you to change your life and start a happy one. If you really want to get out of an abusive relationship and change your life, here is the tool which will help you. So what can you do to set your goals on autopilot?
1. Choose One Priority Goal
Write it out clearly. The better you can visualize your goal, the easier will be to put it onto autopilot. One goal to focus on is much more powerful than having many goals. There may be questions about your personal goals (such as how to protect from bullying, how to visit my friend having a possessive boyfriend, and so on) and how you were able to achieve them while working on different projects, and so forth. How can you have one goal that takes a long time, and still work on smaller projects at the same time?
2. Consider the Steps necessary To Achieve Your Goal
There may be many of them. Make a list in writing to be sure that you will not miss any of them. Think of the goal be accomplished with a series (2-4) of daily or weekly actions. For example, to save money for leaving your abusive boyfriend, you will need to make a savings deposit every payday before you pay your bills. Through that regular action, the goal will eventually be accomplished. Figure this out, and that is your habit or series of habits.
3. Figure Out the Number Of Habits To Work On
By “amount”, I mean that you have to figure out quantity times frequency to achieve your desired result. For example, I can write every single day but not be prepared to write a book if I do not do write enough pages and find enough reference information. So if I am going to write every day, I have to also know how many pages and any other things to do on different days. Figure out this “amount” for your habit and make a schedule.
4. Focus On the Goal
Do it for at least a month. Try to turn my goals into habits, and in doing so, you put your goals on autopilot. Turning a goal into a habit means really focusing on it, intensely, for at least a month, excluding all else. The more you can focus on your chosen goal, the more it will be on autopilot. If more than one habit is necessary, start on the second habit after a month or so, then on the third, and so on, focusing on one habit at a time until each is firmly ingrained.
5. Keep Focusing On Your Goal
After all the necessary habits are ingrained, your goal is on autopilot. If any of the habits gets derailed, you’ll have to focus on that habit again for one month. Once you put it on autopilot, once a habit is firmly established, you do not really have to focus on your goal much. You’ will still do it, but because it has become a habit, you only have to use minimal focus to maintain that habit. The goal becomes on autopilot and you can focus on your next goal or project.
My E-book Example
Let’s look at writing my e-book in June as an example. I was just starting out in writing, and I had the brilliant idea to write an e-book within a month. So that was my goal, and it was my main focus for a while.
But in order to achieve that goal, I broke it down into two habits:
1. I had to make writing a daily habit (while following a writing plan I have made).
2. I had to ask people for feedback to have accountability — I did this through family, friends and through a blog every two weeks. With this accountability, there is no way I would stop writing.
The daily writing habit took about a month to form. I focused on this exclusively for about a month and did not have any other goals, projects or habits that were my main focuses. I did other work projects, but they took a backburner to write.
The accountability habit took a couple of months, mainly because I did not focus on it too much while I was building the writing habit. But it stuck, and for that first year of writing, I would report to people I knew and blog about my writing on Facebook every day.
Once those two habits were firmly entrenched, my e-book goal was pretty much on autopilot. I could focus on my video recording without having to worry too much about the e-book. I still had to do the work, of course, but it did not require constant focus.
And eventually, I have written my e-book. I was able to achieve this because, all year long, I had the daily writing habit and daily accountability habit. I put my e-book goal into autopilot, and that made it much easier — instead of struggling with it daily for an entire year, I focused on it for one month (well, actually two) and was able to accomplish it while focusing on new habits and goals.
“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”Jim Ryun
Other Applications Of The Aforementioned Tips
The autopilot method works for various kinds of goals. I will give you only two examples:
Better People Skills
I turned this goal into a few different habits, including creating a monthly socializing plan, learning to stick to this plan, and making automatic appointments with friends and acquaintances. Once these habits were on autopilot, shyness elimination was a sure bet.
The daily exercise habit was an important first step. Then I got into healthier eating habits, one at a time. Recently I added the habit of tracking my calories, and that has helped a lot.
Getting organized: This is three main habits — designating a spot for everything I own, putting things in their designated spots immediately, and doing daily processing of your inbox.
Choose one goal which you want to put on autopilot. Describe all the necessary sub-goals that you have to achieve. Make an action plan and stick to it for the next 30 days. Then check your progress and if you created a new habit, set another goal or repeat the 30-day process of putting your goal onto autopilot. Good luck