In many cases, you are stuck and cannot consider ending your toxic relationship because… you are dependent on him in some way. What can you do then?
Firstly – it is always to be wise before the damage. If you noticed that your boyfriend becomes angry very easily, starts bullying you – you should instantly think what to do in the case when you have to leave the toxic relationship. Secondly, always be prepared for unpredicted cases, i.e. have some money saved or the place you could go in case you are living with him.
Lack of Money
You may have become financially dependent on your abusive partner. Without money, it can seem impossible for you to leave the relationship. It is worse if you have joint account in case of marriage or some property was jointly bought.
What can you do? Seek free legal advice. There is one in Ireland in Citzen Information Office once per month, but the queue may be long. Find similar options in other countries. You can use the helpline numbers placed on this blog.
If you are physically dependent on your abusive partner, you can feel that your well-being is connected to the relationship. This dependency could heavily influence your decision to stay in a toxic relationship. But remember, staying will not improve your situation and may even worsen it.
Find some help – your friends or institutions which help abusive people. The first step is to contact them and organize transport if you are on a wheelchair. You can also inform local media about your case to find helpful people.
Nowhere to Go
Even if you could leave, you may think that you have nowhere to go or no one to turn to once you have ended the relationship. This feeling of helplessness can be especially strong if you live with your abusive partner.
What do do? Even if you are living in his house, you can try to find women’s refugee houses. Ask calling these telephone numbers. Contact these institutions and make some arrangements. Remember, if you rented the flat and your landlord intended to sell it, you would also have to move. There is always another place which you can find to stay in it, if you have some spare money this may not be a problem.
Author: Victoria Herocten Writer and coach.
Since 2009 she helps women with abuse to start over and how to be happy .
The co-author of the bestseller “Gratitude Book”.