Finding a middle ground with people who bring negativity to your life and cause drama is not easy when all you want to do is live in peace. It is not hard to get sucked in to the whirlwind of problems when you are going along in life. Out of no where, you find yourself trapped between reality and disbelief when people in your neighborhood look through their curtains at you in shame. Talking behind your back, pointing their finger at your relationship can be very painful.
What do these people want? You will never satisfy their wants, but the only thing you can do is to take care of yourself first to cut off from your neighbours’ negativity. How to do that?
1. Make peace with yourself.
This is the most important step when you think of cutting off your toxic neighbours. Scan the brain and think if there was anything you could have possibly done to warrant this parasitic behavior of some people in your neighborhood.
It is okay if you have, then forgive yourself. Try to apologize.
However, do not give it another thought if you truly have nothing, and what is more, cannot figure out what is upsetting everyone so madly. Consider the fact that toxic neighbours want to absorb your energy and effort. life, They want you to “think” there is something wrong with you instead of focusing on your own self.
Be yourself. Know you did nothing wrong. Learn to ignore your toxic neighbours. When they get tired of you, they will move on to their next victim. Always have hope that person is as smart as you are and never gives them an ounce of their attention to play with.
2. Do your best every day.
It is important that no one can ask a thing of you. You are your own person.
If you work for an employer, you are an employee and therefore must comply with office rules, regardless you like them or not.
However, in real life, in your home, in a coffee shop awaiting that pumpkin flavoured latte with hot steamy cream, in your car, no one has the right to tell you it’s not right until it’s their way.
Going through your life, you will gain confidence and begin to trust in yourself that your decisions are the best ones you can make. This happens because they are yours to begin with and no one can take this away from you: choice. Therefore, you can choose to do your best every day. Who cares if it is not good enough for someone else or it’s not their way? All that really matters is that it’s good enough for you.
3. The best revenge is living well with toxic neighbours.
You do not need a Hummer to ride down the road and tell everyone what you think of them. However, one in silver would be a really great first one for the start. Living well does not mean that you do not get the occasional cold and have to call out of work sick. It also does not mean that you are behind one month on the electric bill and need to make a payment plan. What is more, it means nothing when you are not living up to anyone’s expectations because your car broke down so you walked to work. Living well means that you are happy with who you are. No matter what anyone else says about you, only you, yourself, define your happiness. Diminish the conflict as much as you can and focus on these people who empower you – your good friends.
4. Go on about your day.
It is hard to face the idea that someone could possibly not like them, but be careful because it might become your obsession and this will only give them what they want, because they want to bring you down, make you stoop to their level and control you.
Most people that make a ritual out of bringing others down are miserable themselves. I have met many of them on my way going through life. Many of them are not aware of what they are doing. They might never had a flower garden and yours is blooming out of control. It might also happen that they could never eat ice cream, but they see you in a cute stripped dress happily strolling over to the truck every day because you can afford the most expensive clothes. Always remember, there is no cause for you to give it another blink of an eye, whatever the reason. It’s their problem. Let it stay with them.
5. Avoid toxic neighbours like the plague.
Avoiding someone does not mean that you need to be rude or shun someone at the family park on Saturday night during the weekly primary school football game. However, what it does mean is that you do not have to search that person out to figure out why they do not like you.
Why on earth would you want to try to be their pal anyway if there is a person who truly doesn’t like you, Notice that many people have a hard time understanding this concept as people love to be accepted by others. It is our natural need so no one likes to be rejected, you probably too.
Take it from someone who knows this on a much more deeper and personal level. The truth is that you cannot possibly be much more rejected in life after you are rejected from your mother at birth. So, never make a habit of trying to suck up to everyone that has rejected you or treats you like you should be ashamed of yourself. No way! More than that, never back down to being who you are, because you are unique, just as you are you. You will not need the other person so much or at all once you understand that.
6. Never look, breathe, or react toxic neighbours’ way.
The battle will truly not be won without you at the wheel of your own ship. What is important here, observe the following three rules. The first is: “Never react to anything they say or do .”, the second: “ Never look at them.: and the third: “ Never breathe in their direction.” When you follow these rules, you will quisckly forget about toxic neighbours and start focusing on your own life.
Think of one, particularly toxic neighbour. Overcome rumours with truth. Never fear people because of the latest lie told about you. Start a journal in which you will write about each friendly person encountered during the day. Express your gratitude for them, and when you meet them again, thank them for being empowering ans supportive people. Good luck.
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