“Personal success. Why did it not you coming?”. I often hear this complaint The answer is usually very simple and I will give it in today’s post. Meet the 3 reasons that cause the lack of achievements.
1 Your beliefs about whether it is possible. You say: “I want to achieve personal success, but …” and then you mention long list of reasons for which you do not believe that achieving your personal success is possible. For example: I want to be in a relationship, but who would love me as I want a new job, but at the present unemployment did not find, I want to be slim, but I do not want to torture diet.
Your beliefs can completely immobilize you, causing that you will be convicted about your helplessness. You might make some mere attempts, but do not believe in your success. It’s like standing in front of a closed door with a big bunch of keys in his hand and being sure that none of them work.
Let’s imagine that you have a turbulent time in your relationship. Arguments are on daily basis, about minor things. You went to counseling session and obtained some useful tips of winning the conflict. Yet they will not help you to achieve personal success unless you start believing that they will work. It might be hard when you had tried everything and nothing worked. But even then, persistence pays off and eventually you may be able to solve the problem.
2 You do not commit 100% . This means lack of motivation. You assume ahead that you will not succeed so why to make an effort? What you get in return? If your motivation is at 60%, guess how much personal success you will achieve? Maybe 60%, but no more … As a result, you will find that what you do “does not work and I don’t know what to do.” Give 100% of commitment, and you will immediately see the results.
3. Your real intention is different than declared. Let’s take an example: “I want to go on a great vacation with my friends.” But this is not the real reason. It is the “I want to stay away from the responsibility and the backlog of work.” When you think “I want to meet new people,” it really means “I am not able to stand each other.” Only when you look at your motives honestly and meet the real reason – you will find the way to fix the problem and the willingness to make changes.
Achieve success. Choose one situation when you could not achieve personal success. Examine your beliefs and motivation. Describe in writing what you can do today to be successful rather than suffer defeat.
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