When you expect that good things will happen, with confidence, they usually will. On the other hand, if you expect a negative outcome to a situation, then the outcome will usually be negative.
Your expectations play a key role in your own outcomes and they also have a remarkable effect on the people around us. What you expect from your husband or boyfriend determines your attitude toward him more than any other factor. In turn, he tends to reflect your attitudes right back
Dr. Robert Rosenthal of the University of California tells of case after case where teachers were told that a student was extremely bright and was predicted to make a quantum leap in academic performance in the coming year. Despite being randomly chosen from the school population at large, the students provided the teacher believed that the student or students were exceptional and expected them to excel. They performed at much higher levels than other students in the same or similar classes, and vastly better than could have been predicted by previous grades or behaviour.
How can you use it in your relationship? Recall the first dates and unforgettable pleasant experi ences with your boyfriend or husband. You have definitely expected the best from him and he, indeed, behaved in this way. Now, being longer in the relationship, you start to see the brutal reality – his flaws, things that irritate you, maybe some kind of disappointment.
However, you will never know the other person totally, as we are changing with age and even one significant event may dramatically change his perspective to life. Until you try something you will never know what is your potential.
If you do want to create a happy relationship, always expect the best from your other half, even if all around seems to deny your vision. And remember to appreciate any positive and caring act from him. In this way, you will attract even more kindness.
But what if he indeed, seems to stop taking care of the relationship? Then you have to take a more serious look at the truth and possibly move on, yet first giving him a chance to improve. But even if you actually break up, expect the next relationship as happier and more fulfilling… despite the initial pain.
Achieve success. Write down your list of expectations about your other half – either real or future – if you are single. Imagine that he genuinely cares for you and loves you. Visualize this image every day before falling asleep. After 30 days check what has changes.