1. Master a way to deal with your anger.
You can hit the pool to blow off some steam or go for a walk following a difficult interaction. Another efficient way is taking to the golf course for some relaxation. Never allow the anger to consume you or else it will destroy you and your marriage. In critical case, find your outlets for working through the negative energy on a regular basis.
2. Never take your mother-in-law’s criticism personally.
Hilary Rodham Clinton said: “Take criticism seriously, but not personally. If there is truth or merit in the criticism, try to learn from it. Otherwise, let it roll right off you.” You will realize that your mother-in-law is just being her usual, ugly self In many cases. At the end of the day, she has to deal with herself and the consequences of her actions.
When your mother-in-law throws dirt your way, have a visualization exercise that allows the statement to roll off your back. For example, envision what she just said captured in a water balloon, that then rolls off your shoulders and down your back. Then it is smashing on the ground below your feet.
3. Find trusted persons to alleviate negative emotionss.
Most often, your spouse may not always be in the mood to hear about how awful his mother and parents are. To turn to good friends and support groups in getting some things off of your chest then. Otherwise, your marriage will become even more strained.
Think of your last meeting with your mother-in-law. How have you handled your anger, her criticism? Do you have enough people to support you during crisis time? Make a plan and take the first step now.
Author: Victoria Herocten Writer and coach.
Since 2009 she helps women with abuse to start over and how to be happy .
The co-author of the bestseller “Gratitude Book”.