Gratitude is an indispensable ingredient of happiness. Not all the people are aware how to practice it. Especially during Christmas. But the truth is that being grateful is easy to implement. Here are the 3 steps to follow:
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” – Melody Beattie
I will be talking about three issues: praising other people and yourself, appreciating people for everything they do and taking any opportunity to be grateful. Even if you are leaving in an abusive relationship, you can be grateful for something: each assertive behaviour, your friends and your counsellor who are there for you. And you can be grateful God, that despite the obstacles you are still coping with your reality
The same applies to your illness. Your doctors, friends, people from the community are your helpers. In most cases, despite your illness, you can still be grateful that you can talk, walk, hear or see. Now let’s learn how to practise gratitude on an everyday basis:
3 Proven Steps To Practise Gratitude
Now I will present you the 3 steps to show gratitude. Read them carefully and do your best to apply them all during this Christmas.
1. Praise And Approve Others Continually
We are more fed with criticism than praising. Therefore, people often disbelieve when they get a compliment. However, everybody yearns approval. And praising is one giving your approval to others. When you praise people, more helping hands arise and people are more likely to become your friends. Now learn how you can appreciate people:
Tell it to them in person
Use every opportunity to say something nice to the people you meet every day, even to the strangers after saying “hello.” After some time it will become your habit and other people will start perceiving you like a very friendly and positive person.
Write a letter or a thank you a postcard
Imagine that you have you got a postcard, a letter from your partner of your family member, thanking you for something. How would you feel? Probably happy and thinking why they have given it to you. Try the same technique with other people.
Tomorrow send your friend a thank you the postcard or even an email, although traditional post has bigger value, especially when you sign the letter or postcard by hand.
Give them Presents
We are approaching Christmas soon. I do not mean presents given then as everybody does so. And I do not mean presents for birthday, Valentine’s Day or any other fixed occasion. Just buy something when someone has done a good deed for you. It does not have to be expensive present. You can ask first what the other party would like to get and then give it to them
Listen to Your Loved Ones
Sometimes just listening is the biggest favour that you can do to someone. Especially when your friend has achieved something. Be emphatic while listening. We often forget to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes. Right now plan who needs to be listened to badly and expect when you meet this person.
Pray for the People You Meet Every Day
If you are a religious person, you can pray for those who have given you favour or helped in any other way. You can order a mass for your helpers, not necessary because of their birthday or wedding anniversary
2. Appreciate People For Everything They Do
We often ignore the everyday little things for which we can be grateful – ourselves and other people. My next post will give you some ideas of these things. But even today, let’ s mention some of them:
- someone has given you lift,
- the driver smiled at you,
- your friend bought you a cake,
- you have accomplished a difficult task
3. Take Action
All my words can mean nothing if you do not start taking action right now. So do me a favour and just at this moment find someone who you can praise or appreciate them for something. Remember that whatever you do to people comes back multiplied and practicing reciprocity will cause that people will be even more helpful and kinder
Gratitude In Action
Try “60 seconds Praising.” If you are not sure how to start, I will give you one easy tip how you can practise gratitude. The first is the “60 seconds praising”. It is easy as you can measure the length by listening to your heartbeat and counting to 60. It is a short period, but long enough to say some sentences of praise or to list some things for which you are thankful.
Plan the first 60-seconds praising right now and apply it to the first person you will meet today.
I know it might be hard to find someone for whom you can be grateful when you are abused or the thing which can be appreciated when you have a long-term illness. But as I wrote at the beginning of that post – until you can do something, having your senses sound, being able to walk, talk there is always something to be grateful for.
Summing up. Start right now and thank your friend for being there for you. If you are ill, instead of complaining, the next time you will meet your friend, family or counsellor, thank them for support. The same applies to you in a case of abuse. I believe that you have at least one person who can help you and whom you can express your gratitude. Good luck.
And last but not least…
Share your conclusions with others who will read this blog, as maybe you will help someone to avoid mistakes and become a happy person. Thank you.