Last year I found a book where the author described “core beliefs”. I always wondered how to discover them. After doing some tests, I have finally found the way and now I will present it to you:
Beliefs about how lying looks are plentiful and often contradictory: depending
on whom you choose to believe, liars can be detected because they fidget a
lot, hold very still, cross their legs, cross their arms, look up, look down,
make eye contact or fail to make eye contact. – Robin Marantz Henig
Lately, you have met three subconscious beliefs. They are the examples of core beliefs which can be applied in each field of life. Let’s list these beliefs again:
- If I try, I’ll fail
- I’m unworthy
- I’m unwanted
What Is a Core Belief
A core negative belief is the main reason for your behaviour. It is the underlying answer for the more superficial beliefs. So how you can recognize core negative beliefs;
Identify Your Common Negative Beliefs
Do this in writing. For example, finish the sentences starting with Life…., Love….., I can’t (do)…., People (are) ………., Money is……. I don’t deserve……. You will learn plenty of information about yourself. Then think for a while. Are my beliefs positive or negative? Do they empower you or drain your energy, lower your self-confidence?
Spend some time doing this exercise. The better you will meet your beliefs, the bigger is the chance of changing your life. You will become aware that your frequent questions, thoughts, and language have the roots in your beliefs.
Now time has come to explore your beliefs. Define what is hidden underneath. Choose one belief and write it down. Then answer why you believe in that way. Then define what this belief means. Write another, deeper belief. Ask again what it means. You will probably discover another belief, more hidden. Ask about the meaning again. Eventually, you will reach the real reason of your thought and even learn who has installed this belief in your mind.
I can’t start a business because I have any money. I have no money because I am out of work.
I am out of work because I’m slow. I’m slow because I’m not good enough.
I’m not good enough because I’m unworthy.
Doing this exercise, you can also learn what references support it. For example, you can end the sentence “I’m not good enough” with “because my mother told me so.”
Sometimes the reasons for the superficial belief may be facts which you can handle either doing something about the challenge or assuming something negative. Let’s look at the example above:
I am out of work because I’m slow. It is a fact. However, very general. You do not know what “slow” exactly means here, even at work. When are you slow? In which situations? Then you can ask what you could do to improve or accept your speed.
I’m slow because I’m not good enough. The last sentence is an opinion. Someone has told you that you were not good enough and you had believed in it. However, it may not be true, at least not always. Then your belief can be questioned.
Knowing your core beliefs will help you to take action so your life can be happier and more
fulfilled. What is the first step which you can adopt to change your beliefs right now? If you are not sure, my next posts will help you to find the answer. Do you want to know more about beliefs? Sign up to the mailing list below. My new book will be published soon
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