Anyone can end up in a toxic relationship. Is it bad luck? Usually not. Your thoughts, fears, low self-esteem cause that you take crumbs of toxic love over nothing. What does it mean in particular?
Therefore, you enter toxic relationships because of a destructive program your subconscious mind. It thinks that you can relive the pain and somehow fix the past. You also seek out a relationship which is familiar to your parents’, even if it means abuse and another wounds.
2. Putting your partner up on a pedestal
This means that he becomes all your world and you forget about your own needs. When the relationship becomes toxic, you do not want to leave this person because you idolise him. But what will you receive in return?
3. People with mental health problems
They may enter into a toxic relationship because the constant drama and excitement is a cure for their problems. People with mental disorders often feel too lonely to reject someone who wants to use them, even if it means abuse.
4. A vulnerable time and place in the life
What does it mean? You might have recently moved to a new area, and you are trying to adjust. You might have lost your job, or a close friend or family member. These are very vulnerable moments. Then you may be drawn to anyone who is nice to you or who shows you compassion. When you’re at a vulnerable point in your life, spend time with people you already trust.
5. Not recognizing untrustworthy people
Some people simply cannot be trusted. They tinker with the truth when it is in their best interest, and sometimes even when it doesn’t matter. They don’t think that lying to you or anyone else is a problem. A sense of personal integrity is lacking. Run, don’t walk, away from people who distort or stretch the truth. Make sure you know them long enough to find out if what they’re telling you is true.
Author: Victoria Herocten Writer and coach.
Since 2009 she helps women with abuse to start over and how to be happy .
The co-author of the bestseller“Gratitude Book”.