You will not experience a cataclysmic transformation. Usually change comes as an evolutionary process of almost imperceptible changes. There are 4 steps which you need to follow in order to succeed and start a new, happy life.
Jim Rohn describes four basic emotions that can trigger the most incredible changes. The day that you channel these emotions to fuel your desire is the day you will start a new, abuse-free life.
Before you start any changes, you need to become fed up with your present life. You have to touch the bottom and say “Enough is enough”. It will be your pain that will drive you towards changes. You will experience awful sick feelings of pain, fear and humiliation. You will not like your present life anymore. You will name this moment “never again”.
2. Decision and taking responsibility
You, like the most, need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions. Once you reach this point, you have to deal with the conflicting emotions that come with making them.
When you make life-changing decisions you can experience internal civil war. Conflicting armies of emotions battle each other for supremacy of your mind. And your resulting decisions can either set the course of action or blind it. Here is a simple effective tip which will help you to make decisions easier: Just decide. It’s far better to make a wrong decision than to not make one at all.
How do you gain desire? There are two things I can tell you: Firstly, desire comes from the inside, not outside. Secondly, desire can be triggered by outside forces.
Almost anything can trigger desire. It might be a bitter experience, a conversation with a friend, a song that tugs at the heart or a memorable sermon, a movie, a confrontation with the enemy or. Even this article can trigger the inner mechanism that will make you say, “I want it now!”
Therefore, welcome into your life each positive experience while searching for your “hot button” of desire,. Stop erecting a wall to protect you from experiencing life. The same wall that keeps out your disappointment also keeps out the sunlight of enriching experiences.
It means “I will.” These two words are among the most potent in the English language. Benjamin Disraeli once said, “Nothing can resist a human will that will stake even its existence on the extent of its purpose.” In other words, nothing can stop you when you resolve “do or die,”.
Let’s say you are the mountain climber and say, “I will climb the mountain. They’ve told me it’s too high, it’s too far, it’s too steep, it’s too rocky, it’s too difficult. But it’s my mountain. I will climb it. You’ll soon see me waving from the top or you’ll never see me, because unless I reach the peak, I’m not coming back.” Your life, your relationship is your mountain.
However, you might have lost your trail or followed the wrong signs and now are stuck.
Ask yourself, “How long am I going to stay in that abusive relationship to stop making my dreams come true?” I suggest you answer, “As long as you avoid changes.”
Author: Victoria Herocten Writer and coach.
Since 2009 she helps women with abuse to start over and how to be happy .
The co-author of the bestseller“Gratitude Book”.