5. Successful People Don’t Focus on Problems, But On Solutions
You create and prolong negative emotions and stress when you fixate on the problems you are facing . Focus on actions instead, to better yourself and your circumstances, Then you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and reduces stress.
Fixating on how crazy and difficult toxic people gives them power over you. Quit thinking about how troubling your difficult person is. Instead, focus instead on how you intend to go about handling them. This makes you more effective by putting you in control. It will also reduce the amount of stress you experience when interacting with them.
6. Successful People Establish Boundaries
Many people feel like because they work or live with someone, having no way to control the chaos. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Once you’ve found your way to establish your boundaries, you will begin to find your behavior more predictable and easier to understand. You will be equipped to think rationally Successful people know when and where to put up with them and when they don’t.
You can establish a boundary. However, you will have to do so consciously and proactively. Successful people let things happen naturally. They are bound to find themselves constantly embroiled in difficult conversations. You can control much of the chaos if you set boundaries and decide when and where you will engage a difficult person. Just stick to your guns and keep boundaries in place when the person tries to encroach upon them.
7. Successful People Don’t Forget
Successful people are emotionally intelligent. They are quick to forgive, yet that does not mean that they forget. Forgiveness requires letting go of what has happened so that you can move on. Successful people are unwilling to be bogged down unnecessarily by others’ mistakes. Instead, they are assertive in protecting themselves from future harm and let the mistakes go quickly and.
8. Successful People Won’t Let Anyone Limit Their Joy
You are no longer the master of your own happiness when your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people. Successful people will not let anyone’s opinions because they are emotionally intelligent and feel good about something that they’ve done.
You no have to compare yourself to others, even if it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you. Moreover, you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. Your self-worth comes from within in that way, no matter what toxic people are thinking or doing, One thing is certain: you are never as good or bad as they say you are.
Think of one person that is toxic. What can you do to set healthier boundaries with them? Write down your solution and implement right now.
Author: Victoria Herocten Writer and coach.
Since 2009 she helps women with abuse to start over and how to be happy .
The co-author of the bestseller “Gratitude Book”.